Fallen short
Wednesday, March 18, 2015; 12:01 AM | 0 Comments

Today as a teacher with a class of 14 three to four year olds, and a very difficult lesson to carry out, I decided to reflect upon what happened in class even though it will be painful for me. 

It will be my experience with M and C, two brothers who can be quite a handful to the teachers in the classroom. 
Our first experience with them yesterday made the teachers wary of their behaviors, we thought of ways we could better manage the class, like sitting them apart from each other, or putting them on a table of their own so they don't disrupt other kids. Today, as an assistant teacher, I watched over the two boys, and got mad and very upset when they misbehaved and said things that weren't very nice. It's hard to put into words what happened, but they were really getting very tired of creating a straw sculpture that was very difficult to make. That probably escalated my frustration as much as it did for them. This though led me to react in a negative manner with the wrong choice of words when disciplining the boys. I said "do you know that what you boys just said was very rude? One of you will go sit at that table on his own." And their response? They said in quick defense "no, you're rude! (They're right.) You go sit on that table! (No one should.)"

Today I realised how much I fall short as a teacher. We often measure our capabilities in how well we manage a class that had went well, but it is when we meet challenging situations, difficult lessons or frustrating processes, that shows us what it means to be a great teacher. First, I made a mistake in labeling them as problem kids. I fall short as a loving teacher. Second, I was unable to help them feel less frustrated about what their art project which was difficult. I fall short as a problem solving teacher. Third, I used negative words and blamed them directly in my discipline. I fall short as a nurturing teacher. And forth, I 'threatened' to try to get good behavior. I fall short as a good teacher. 

I'm not carrying the entire fault of the incident on my shoulders, it could really be the behavior of the boys, the failure of the teacher in charge to develop an age appropriate lesson, or even the fault of parents to send their kids to something they don't wanna be at. But. I carry the fault of not being capable enough to help the kids enjoy their learning process, and my failure in proper disciplining of the boys. The words I said to them shot right back at me, and they really hit me hard as I reflected. 

I will see the boys tmr again, and the first thing I would like to tell them is that I'm sorry. I'm sorry, because as much as they're learning to be good boys, I'm learning to be a good teacher. And I don't want to fall short as a reflective teacher. I want to be a teacher who learns from my mistakes, and will be willing to admit and correct them. Jiayou to myself! 💪