Lost art
Wednesday, August 26, 2015; 5:28 PM |
People always say how communication is a lost art. I've never really thought that way, I wondered how people built relationships in the past without the technologies we have today. And I only realised in recent, how communication never used to be about the techs, communication was just simply having a conversation. It really saddens me to see how conversations between people has changed so much, losing so much of its beauty and value, with technology, or rather the over reliance on it. Our expectations of the nits and grits of our 'technologized' communication has also
become the root of many fights and misunderstandings.
I watched a show last night and the people had pagers at that time. It's interesting to see how people were so much less dependent on technology for communication. When they had something to say, they met face to face. We still do that, but technology has given us an option not to. How "We text everyday" is almost equivalent to spending quality time with the person. How conversations has become so diluted, sometimes making it lose authenticity and genuinity. How how long the person takes to reply, or if the person replies or not, may mean how much the person cares about or is interested in you. And how a 😊 can determine the mood of a message, (it sounds ridiculous but it's crazy true) making it almost impossible to know the feelings of the person you're texting if he/she uses a dozen of smileys.
I'm a person who'd find it extremely hard to say what I don't feel. I can't say (verbally) "yayy I'm happy for you" if I wasn't. but it's scary even to myself, cause I probably would say (through text) "yayy, I'm really happy for you. You really deserve it! 😊😊😊" without feeling too much internal struggle.
But why. Why do we do that? Why do we pretend we're okay when we're not, why do we say I'm sorry or thank you when we may not mean it, why do we say don't worry when you need someone to shower love and attention on you, why can't an sms be as truthful as an actual conversation with someone.
No, we don't all say (verbally) what we mean as well, but most of us can't hide our emotions the way we do in our messages. And no, there are times we should not say everything we mean, cause I know sometimes we think of very genuine but mean thoughts and that is going to hurt feelings, but I'm just saying communication isn't supposed to be that way. Communication should involve feelings, not a masking of it. Communication should have smiles, not smileys. Communication should be deep and meaningful, they don't have to be two hour long talks, they don't need to be about deep topics, deep as in it connects, "I'm telling you because I want you to know" and "I'm listening because I want to know" kind of connection.
With that said, I'd put both my hands up and admit that I'm a culprit of every single thing I have mentioned till now, and maybe that's the reason too why I'm so affected by my communication with people in recent, trying to deal with my own expectations of a conversation, reflecting if my expectations are of any value, and working on it to say what I feel and feel what I say (which is easier said than done). Without technology, we wouldn't be able to communicate so conveniently and frequently with people around us. Technology is a tool to enhance communication and we should never forget that it really is not the only way for us to communicate with each other.
I really rattled on for this post, I'm sorry to those who'll read this disjointed and incoherent post of my own thoughts over the last few days. (: and I'll like to end off with this, that communication is simple, and sometimes it is ourselves who'd make it out to be complicated and tiring. Now I'd say I'm ready to communicate, are you? 😊
Thursday, August 6, 2015; 12:57 AM |
Hardest week thus far.
Assignments, presentations, dramatizations, deadlines.
No home, no sleep, no company.
But it's okay, one more day. 💪
Lost art
Wednesday, August 26, 2015; 5:28 PM |
People always say how communication is a lost art. I've never really thought that way, I wondered how people built relationships in the past without the technologies we have today. And I only realised in recent, how communication never used to be about the techs, communication was just simply having a conversation. It really saddens me to see how conversations between people has changed so much, losing so much of its beauty and value, with technology, or rather the over reliance on it. Our expectations of the nits and grits of our 'technologized' communication has also
become the root of many fights and misunderstandings.
I watched a show last night and the people had pagers at that time. It's interesting to see how people were so much less dependent on technology for communication. When they had something to say, they met face to face. We still do that, but technology has given us an option not to. How "We text everyday" is almost equivalent to spending quality time with the person. How conversations has become so diluted, sometimes making it lose authenticity and genuinity. How how long the person takes to reply, or if the person replies or not, may mean how much the person cares about or is interested in you. And how a 😊 can determine the mood of a message, (it sounds ridiculous but it's crazy true) making it almost impossible to know the feelings of the person you're texting if he/she uses a dozen of smileys.
I'm a person who'd find it extremely hard to say what I don't feel. I can't say (verbally) "yayy I'm happy for you" if I wasn't. but it's scary even to myself, cause I probably would say (through text) "yayy, I'm really happy for you. You really deserve it! 😊😊😊" without feeling too much internal struggle.
But why. Why do we do that? Why do we pretend we're okay when we're not, why do we say I'm sorry or thank you when we may not mean it, why do we say don't worry when you need someone to shower love and attention on you, why can't an sms be as truthful as an actual conversation with someone.
No, we don't all say (verbally) what we mean as well, but most of us can't hide our emotions the way we do in our messages. And no, there are times we should not say everything we mean, cause I know sometimes we think of very genuine but mean thoughts and that is going to hurt feelings, but I'm just saying communication isn't supposed to be that way. Communication should involve feelings, not a masking of it. Communication should have smiles, not smileys. Communication should be deep and meaningful, they don't have to be two hour long talks, they don't need to be about deep topics, deep as in it connects, "I'm telling you because I want you to know" and "I'm listening because I want to know" kind of connection.
With that said, I'd put both my hands up and admit that I'm a culprit of every single thing I have mentioned till now, and maybe that's the reason too why I'm so affected by my communication with people in recent, trying to deal with my own expectations of a conversation, reflecting if my expectations are of any value, and working on it to say what I feel and feel what I say (which is easier said than done). Without technology, we wouldn't be able to communicate so conveniently and frequently with people around us. Technology is a tool to enhance communication and we should never forget that it really is not the only way for us to communicate with each other.
I really rattled on for this post, I'm sorry to those who'll read this disjointed and incoherent post of my own thoughts over the last few days. (: and I'll like to end off with this, that communication is simple, and sometimes it is ourselves who'd make it out to be complicated and tiring. Now I'd say I'm ready to communicate, are you? 😊
Thursday, August 6, 2015; 12:57 AM |
Hardest week thus far.
Assignments, presentations, dramatizations, deadlines.
No home, no sleep, no company.
But it's okay, one more day. 💪
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